Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Mother's Day Giveaway

It had been years since last I saw my mother-in-law.  But there I was, standing in her little apartment at the retirement home. I didn't think this would have ever come to be. 


You see, after both my husband and I had been estranged from her for almost 15 years, we were drawn back into her life.  She needed help. And even though she lives in a town surrounded by extended family, the load of her problems rested on the shoulders of her two sonsTwo sons that had heard a lot of negativity about the women they chose to love and marry. You can turn the other cheek only so long (as in years) before you look in the mirror and realize that you can't take it any more.  So, you silently close the door and slip away.  That's what we did.  Until now.

Lace, vintage millinery flowers
Mary is a woman who couldn't handle the passing of her husband. After 12 years she, her home and her finances had come to disrepair.  She didn't know how to be on her own.  Add to that the trickle effects of dementia and you can only imagine her state. My husband had found a retirement home for her as she needed someone to tend to the details of her life... and she welcomed being moved into these accommodations! 

Pearl centers on vintage velvet flowers
Then, one night while getting up to go to the bathroom, she fell.  The nurses called my husband saying she had a heart attack and broke her hip as the result of falling.  Immediately, he called me relating the situation and letting me know that he was leaving work to drive the four hours to get to her.  I was in Charleston at the time and booked the next flight out to go home, pack a new suitcase, and drive the four hours to be by my husband's side, supporting him.  Thankfully, she didn't have a heart attack.  She had tripped and fractured her hip requiring surgery.  Now.... after almost 15 years... I was back in her life and standing in her little apartment before the ambulance arrived, bringing her back to her new home. 

Silk fabric flower with vintage millinery flower
I entered her little place with my husband beside me.  He was so pleased with her living situation!  I looked around seeing familiar pieces of furniture that had been moved in to make this her home.  Photos of her grandchildren graced the side tables.... covered the top of her organ she so loves to play.  I was pleased to see that my son's pictures took equal billing as I wasn't sure they would. 

Layers of old lace covered with trim from a vintage hat
 As I moved over to where her bed was, I noticed a sweet, little wicker basket on her night stand, filled with individual photos, some curling up on the corners with age. One piled on top of another.  Gently, I looked through them getting reacquainted with family members I hadn't seen in years.. and ones I had yet to meet.  Mixed in were a few photos of my boys.  They took my breath away as I hadn't seen these before.  There was my first born son as a toddler with his sweet little face.  There was a photo of the two boys riding on their grandpa's sit-down mower... they loved that so!  And there was my youngest looking like a Gerber baby in his birth announcement picture.  Photos mean the world to us, don't they?  It's the only way we can fulfill our wish of being able to go back in time and have those moments all over again.


I did get to see my mother-in-law before we both drove back home to Chicago.  And I must say, it was so good seeing her.  It was time to mend fences and whether it will stand firm or not is not important.  What is important is that I did the right thing. It took so little from me. And it made me feel so good knowing that she has photos of our children to remind her of the family she has in us!


  
So... the photos that have filled this post?  They are of a picture frame I decorated and will be giving away to a lucky winner right before Mother's Day. Three opportunities to enter.... three chances to win!

1. Leave a comment at the end of this post.
2. Become a follower (love making new friends!) and if you   
   already are, do remind me, please!
3. Post the link of this blogpost on your facebook wall so others
   will see it and have a chance to win... and do let me know so 
   I can add one more tic next to your name!
          
Good luck, everybody, and I will post the winner May 3rd!!!!  

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57 comments:

  1. That is very nice.... it's always nice to have good relationships with all family members. Hopefully yours will remain positive...

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  2. What a sweet post, thanks so much for joining Inspire Me.

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  3. What a beautiful story, Kadee.I had some issues with my in-laws earlier on in marriage but now we all get along well. It's very nice. Would love to have a piece of your work. Thanks for the opportunity.

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  4. Hi Kadee,
    Your story is beautiful and has a loving continuation. Life has a way of healing hearts over time.
    Your giveaway is gorgeous and I love that frame. So beautiful from your talented hands. I would love to enter and I am already a happy follower.
    I do not have FB now but I will post your giveaway on my sidebar with link back here.

    Happy Wednesday my friend.
    Hugs, CM

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  5. Very sweet story and so relatable. Beautiful frame you have created too!

    ~Trisha

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  6. Wow Kadee. This post really touched home with me. I strive hard to remain positive about "parent figures" but with Eric's living so far away, his nearby mother figure not approving of me, and mine being deceased, it gets really hard. Thank you for helping me to become more positive about the future. I hope one day certain doors will re-open <3

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  7. Hi Kadee,

    Gives new perspective on things and our lives doesn't it. Time does heal,and sometimes a tragedy(your's wasn't, but bad enough)can make things all much clearer. Thank you for sharing.
    Your friend,
    Anne Murray

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  8. Well, you brought a tear to my eye this morning - love this post...I haven't had the easiest of MILs either, at least in the first years (I married the only son of an Italian mother - yeah, what was I thinking). You DID do the right thing - ROCK ON, girl! You know I love this blog, and I'm a Follower (and that creeps me out right there, because I've been hooked on The Following...ok, not THAT kind of Follower). Will post to my facebook, as soon as I get back from a class - have a GREAT day, Kadee (the frame is absolutely gorgeous, but you should already know that!). Thanks for making my morning - XOXO

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  9. What a sweet story. Forgiveness can be so healing! So can mercy. And grace.

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  10. Oh Kadee, I've lost count of how many times I have heard a similar story and so I thank you for sharing yours. Many blessings and heartfelt hugs to you.

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  11. Such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing with us. So glad you and your husband have a forgiving heart and were able to be there for your mother-in-law in her time of despair.

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  12. Kadee, I am so glad you and your husband had the chance to see his mother again. Life is so short. I also had somewhat of a controlling MIL in our first years of marriage and when our children were small. But, I've come to realize that those times were her menopausal years. She is just the sweetest person now. I simply cherish her!

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  13. Really gorgeous frame and the story is so touching. I like happy ends.

    Just became a follower and shared on my facebook.
    Best wishes xxx

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  14. What a Beautiful story Kadee,
    Sharing True Love in a Family, no matter what!
    You did do the right thing ~ Blessings to You & Your Family

    Beautiful Frame ~ I am one of your newest followers....
    I would love to be entered,
    Cheryl
    zany-mayd.blogspot.com

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  15. Gosh this story really resonated with me Kadee.Not all families are kind and loving are they?To not be approved of by one's MIL is very hard- I know from experience.I am so glad you were a rock in this situation, and that it brought you some healing. I wish you well in the on-coming times, and hope your MIL finds some peace in her later years.
    You're a good woman to stand by your husband.Not all women would in this situation.
    Judy x

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  16. I am a follower. I am sure your mother in law treasured her pictures. It is a shame those years slipped away from her. What a beautiful frame you created, I would love a chance to win. Di

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  17. I am glad that you were able to mend fences and re-establish a relationship, Kadee...lovely post!

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  18. Kadee Dear this is such an important post for all of us to remember to set the past aside and enjoy the present. You have written this from your heart and thank you for sharing your heartfelt emotions. Blessing to you and your family...

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  19. Kadee, the frame is just so beautiful!! Thank you for reminding us just how fragile life is and that we need to always give it one more chance....we are only responsible for OUR actions and life is just so short. You did a beautiful thing and the right thing. Prayers that things will be different from here and you will have some precious memories to replace the unpleasant moments.. Blessings, Linda

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  20. Oh, forgot to say, that I am a follower!!Thanks

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  21. Happy to hear that things are better with you and your MIL...life is just too short...you did the right thing for going to her. The frame is beautiful....so please count me in.

    Blessings,
    Linda

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  22. Hi Kadee, Such a sweet post. Thank you for sharing...Connie

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  23. Came over to visit after you left a sweet comment on my blog - thanks.
    I was touched by your post. I hope your mother in law and your relationship heals quickly.
    Rhonda

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  24. Hi Kadee,
    This was such a beautiful loving story. Wow it is amazing how things work out in life. Very sweet story. The frame is so sweet too. Thanks for a chance. I do follow you too.
    Kris

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  25. Kadee,
    This is such a lovely touching story. I am glad for all of you that you have reconnected and I hope family love keeps you tied together.
    The frame is beautiful, Kadee. I would be thrilled to own it and use it. I am a follower and I have posted about your giveaway on the sidebar of my blog.
    audrey xo

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  26. Family is such a funny thing...you really know you are family when things are bad, it's easy to be family when things are good. What a sweet and sad story, but I love your outlook, so many could learn from it! What a beautiful frame I would love to have a chance to win it...it would look great in my "family room". Thanks for the chance! I am already your follower!
    Hugs,
    Pendra

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  27. Thank you for sharing Kaydee. Your story sounds a little familiar. But,thankfully, like your story, I think mine is coming around to a good ending as well. So glad you got the chance to help and see that your boys are treasured. That just feels good.

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  28. Hi Kadee,
    That was a lovely story, and I can so relate......as I had issues with my Mother-in-law too, and she lived in the same town and went to the same church, and made friends with my friends............many long hard years for me........but in the end she wound up
    having a terrible stroke that paralyzed her down one side and she could not speak, and
    the Lord enabled me to be her advocate, and I was at that nursing home every day looking out for her, or taking her for rides in her wheel chair or the car, doing her nails, bringing her food..........it truly was a God thing..........and a experience I shall never forget.........
    Kudos to you for taking the high road...........but certainly understand your earlier experience and why you did what you did, it was healthy for your family, and sometimes we have to make those decisions. Thanks for sharing this with us, and that is an absolutely stunning frame, you do good work!!
    Blessings, Nellie

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  29. This is a lovely p ost, Kadee. It brought tears to my eyes, thinking about mymother who will be 95 this July. I am hoping I can keep here forever, but I know it is not possible and the thought of ever losing her someday makes me so sad. I am now a new follower....Christine

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  30. Inspiring post, Kadee. The best thing is that you did the right thing by your mother-in-law. Thanks for sharing your lovely story, also for visiting my blog.
    Happy weekend.
    Hugs,
    Babs

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  31. Kadee, thank you for trusting us with your story. You did the right thing indeed. Maybe she will appreciate the person you are. I know your husband does.
    We joined your lovely blog. Hope you will join us.
    Peace always,
    Linda (and Jeannie) at The French Hens Nest

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  32. Such a beautiful post! Thanks so much for sharing at AMAZE ME MONDAY! Lovely frame, thanks for the chance to win!
    Blessings,
    Cindy

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  33. Kadee,so nice to meet you,what a lovely story. It was like reading about my own life with my mum and mum in law. That's another story though. So pleased it all worked out.
    Thank you so much for visiting me and for your sweet comment. I am keeping the little pram inside even though I think your idea of one filled with flowers would be delightful. If I ever get another,that's what I'll do. I am now following you too. Good luck with the writing,it's such fun. x

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  34. Wow, now I know why you needed a laugh and I am so glad I gave you one. (Years ago I had a mom in law that was a terror) One of the hardest parts about becoming an adult for me was finding out that others sometimes aren't. And years of it especially from a relative, can really leave marks. It took a lot of courage to share that post in a blog world where a lot of it is portrayed as picture perfect. I have great respect for people who can keep it real in a world that lately (for me anyway) has been filled with too many "facades". Damn Good job!

    and I am now a new follower via google and email.
    XO,
    Christine

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  35. What a sweet post...so happy for all of you. Your give away is lovely!
    xo
    lynn
    p.s. I have a give away going on as well, come on over!

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  36. what a beauty. It's soft and romantic like the rose itself. Thanks for stopping by. New gfc follower. see you again soon.

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  37. As always - a beautiful story. I miss you and was elated to hear your kind words on my recent blog post. You are so very talented yourself young lady - GORGEOUS frame by the way! Stay in touch -
    Rae

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  38. I totally understand what it means to close a door and slip away. Sometimes you just don't have a choice. I'm glad that door has reopened for your family!

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  39. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a sweet comment, I so appreciate it. Love the frame so old looking but pretty at the same time. Thanks again!

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  40. Beautifully written, hopefully it will be the beginning of mending fences for you and your mother-in-law. I'll post the giveaway on my FB page. you have a beautiful blog! Joleen

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  41. It is so hard to make the choice to separate from a family member. I'm so glad you were able to reunite. The frame is beautiful! Thank you for sharing it at to What We Accomplished Wednesdays. Have a great week!

    Hugs,
    Deborah

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  42. So much time wasted when people close their hearts. It is wonderful that you and your husband have been able to forgive and open your hearts to her.
    Thank you for sharing photos of the gorgeous frame you have created, love it!
    enJOY a sweet today,
    Kimberly

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  43. Hi Kadee, stopping by to say hello. Hope you had a great weekend. Loved viewing your gorgeous frame once again. The details are so pretty. Love the pic inside too.
    Happy Monday and have a great week.
    Hugs!!

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  44. Oh, goodness! What a lovely post! You DID do the right thing! I'm proud of you as a sister in blogland. Thank you for sharing this and thank you for the visit and sweet comment at The Dedicated House! It means the world. I would love it if you would share this lovely post at my Make it Pretty Monday party which is live right now. Here is the link if you would like to check it out: http://thededicatedhouse.blogspot.com/2013/04/make-it-pretty-monday-week-47.html ***Ignore my rule about no giveaways. You can post this post or any other you might like. Hope to see you at the bash! Toodles, Kathryn @TheDedicatedHouse

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  45. Hello!I am your latest new follower.Boy,did I just happen to come across your lovely blog at the right time.I would love owning your gorgeous handiwork.What a treasure for you to give away.It shows so much about who you are.I enjoyed listening to your story,very touching.Of course I will post this and share it on FB,an easy request :)Please do drop by when you have time if you like and I'll share some time and tea or coffee and We can chat and maybe get to know eachother.Denise of Coffeeberry Cottage

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  46. O.K.I'm all set.Just posted your blog on FB. Finger's crossed.

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  47. Kadee, what a touching story. It really gave me goose bumps. I am empressed with your attitude. It would have been so easy to have just let your hubby go and refuse to go because of having not spoken to her for so long. You were the better woman and was rewarded because of it. The frame is darling. Love all of the special touches. Thanks for sharing it with SYC. Keeping my fingers crossed.
    hugs,
    Jann

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  48. Kadee, I am a recent follower of your sweet blog.
    hugs,
    Jann

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  49. Kadee, I posted about your give away on my facebook page. Thanks again!
    hugs,
    Jann

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  50. Kadee,

    I had tears in my eyes when I read your post. I know first hand about family pushing others away and then deciding when is it time to mend fences. Life is too short and even though it was tough you did the right thing. It was the right time.

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  51. Oh, Kadee - doing the right thing is always best, but I understand about having to "divorce" some family members at times. It isn't easy, either way. I hope that your mother-in-law will get well and realize what a gem she has for a daughter-in-law. Hope you have a wonderful Mother's Day!!

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